In the end we eloped. It kept getting clearer: my brother should be celebrated and Dad I love you to the Upside Down and back Stranger Things shirt. In fact, I could feel the deep resentment that my happiness stirred up in my parents.It was hard to accept that sort of thing as a child, and it’s very confusing even as a middle aged adult. Until Quora I did not know that the golden child and scapegoat dynamic existed or how it played out with narcissistic parents. I had no idea how stereotypical my family dynamic was. With every new success I think my parents might be proud of me, or give me some credit, and it never, ever happens.
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My small or Dad I love you to the Upside Down and back Stranger Things shirt, and I am the living breathing being that must be either ignored or forcefully discredited in order to maintain their unwavering view of our family. That view is of my brother as golden child, the shining symbol of our family success. Growing up his wall of trophies was the first thing a visitor saw walking through the front door. He was a judo champion until 8th grade, tall and good looking with good enough grades to get into UC Berkeley. Even now, whatever he says my parents will parrot to anyone who will listen, crediting him loudly. They idolize him.